We are close to budget, a magician will just cost too much, right?
Wrong. Read on and i’ll explain why it’s the least cost you’ll notice.
Do you need to budget for entertainment?
It’s an expense, you need to budget but is it expensive?
I’m going to talk to you very briefly about the budget and what to expect.
I say briefly because seriously there is not that much to consider.
The average wedding in the UK will cost you £20,000, and that’s the average, a budget wedding will still be around £12,000.
I understand that every factor you consider costs you money but consider this one carefully, the decision to NOT have a magician will cost you far more. Your guests need to be kept entertained throughout key parts of the day, there is a lot going on during some times and at other times…not much. It’s those times of ‘not much’ to really make sure you have thought thoroughly about your guests otherwise they will feel left out, bored and often drained during the long day. If you’ve ever been stood around checking a watch at a friend’s wedding you’ll know exactly how you DON’T want your guests feeling.
Back to budget, remember that average of £20,000, well imagine you hit your budget and forgot about entertainment.
Do you –
a: Stick to budget and leave out the entertainment.
Guests are bored and potentially a wedding disaster for everyone to talk about for years to come.
b: Find an extra £550, so £20,550 to hire a quality magician ‘holla’
Guests are thoroughly entertained and makes the wedding a huge smash for everyone to talk about for years to come.
I’m guessing you answered b? Good!
So you realise you need entertainment, it’s not an extra, it’s an essential.
In the grand scheme of planning, that ‘extra’ really isn’t much is it.
With no disrespect to other wedding suppliers, my service is one the guests will remember and talk about. That feeling I evoke when i’m with them creates unforgettable and lasting memories. Items like chair covers, table pieces, post boxes and all wonderful touches and i’m sure you already budgeted for those and thought about them but, tell me, what chair covers did they use at the last wedding you attended…you can’t remember even the colour can you?
If you do need to budget for that £550 I talked about, look at other things you are having and wonder if leaving them out really will make such difference?
TO RECAP, NOT HAVING A MAGICIAN AT YOUR WEDDING, COSTS MORE THAN HAVING ONE.
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Make Every Guest Feel Loved By Simply Letting Them Know Where to Sit.
In my time as a magician I’ve had the pleasure of attending 100’s of weddings and I’m genuinely humbled to be a part of every single one – during this time I’ve picked up so many hints and tips which I really feel like would be of benefit for planning couples to read about (also I’ve seen some things to tell you to avoid!)
One thing I have noticed is the joy people have as they arrive at their table and see their place setting. I know you’re thinking this is obvious, great minds think alike…but really, I’ve been to weddings and this little personal touch has been forgotten or not even thought about.
As the guests get to the table, they frantically search for their name to find it not there, they scramble and sit where they like, it’s a mess.
The general table setting is shown on a board at the room entrance, two contrasting ideas but equally lovely here:
With the overall table plans it’s important to:
• Make it easy to read and understand.
• Use large type so people don’t have to stand too close.
• Use an easy to read font.
• Separate the tables clearly and make the layout match the actual room layout.
• Make sure the placement of the plan has plenty of room and space.(There is nothing worse than loads of guests huddled around the board trying to find their name and clogging up the entrance to the room.)
Making it easy to read, the flow from Reception to Wedding Breakfast will work so much better.
Just think – any way to show a guest where ‘exactly’ they are sitting not only helps the flow of the day but also lets them know you care.
You do care don’t you? So do I, lets talk.
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Your photos are the key to looking back on what was the absolute best day of your lives. Here are 3 simple things to do to ensure they are absolutely incredible beyond anything you could imagine.
1: Brief the photographer on what you want
Ok, slightly misleading, don’t actually tell the photographer how to do their job but make sure the photographer you choose is the right one for you.
Research lots of photographers both online and at wedding fairs. You may be looking for a classic theme, you may want something artistic, there are many styles out there – just make sure you choose one you love and leave them to work their own magic (pardon the pun)
The worst thing you can do is choose any old photographer and try to steer them down a path they have never trodden, that will just stress you and them out massively and it will show in the end results.
So, Choose the right photographer for you.
2: Make sure the setting is right
Again as above but think about where you are getting married, there is no point in wanting a lake view backdrop and choosing a venue without a lake.
3: Keep your guests entertained
I could of course wax lyrical about why and indeed I do in other blog posts throughout my site. Fundamentally – people smiling, laughing and generally happy makes good photos, with great entertainment at your wedding, the photographer will not have a hard job of capturing incredible moment like this.
I hope you enjoyed this little snippet, please take a look at my other blogs
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The wedding speeches are probably the most worried about element to any wedding. Whether you are used to speaking in public or not, you will present an amount or nerves during the build up, whilst speaking and even afterwards. Being nervous is actually a good thing and once you learn more about nerves, what they are and how to address/reduce them, you will learn to embrace the feeling.
Being a performer often in front of large crowds I have learnt many tips to ensure I no longer let nerves beat me. I still get nervous from time to time, but i’ve learnt to deal with them in a completely different way. I can now and regularly do perform in front of large rooms of people with complete confidence, this confidence frees me up to concentrate on the people I perform to and this natural persona means people warm to me easily.
Below are some tips i’ve picked up along the way on what you can do to ensure you NAIL THAT WEDDINGS SPEECH!
1. Understanding nerves
Feeling nervous is perfectly natural, it’s not something you can completely stop, indeed you really don’t want to but it is something you can learn to deal with. We feel nervous about new situations, the anticipation of the unexpected, we build an idea in our head about a certain outcome. It is our bodies natural defence and is a feeling normally in your stomach. Nerves are good and help you raise your game in any situation.
2. Everyone is on your side
Every single person in that room, when you stand up, wants you to do well. They will all be supportive of you all the way. If you stumble, it won’t really matter – they all know how difficult it is getting up there, some could not even face going through with it themselves if asked, so hold your head up high and be proud that not only are you involved in the big day in such a way, but that you have taken this task on the chin and are about to deliver a memorable moment in the happy couples very special day.
Make the content your own, from your heart and it really will be amazing. You have a lot to talk about if you put your mind to it but keep it to some key moments during the lives you have shared together. There may be some embarrassing moments, some funny moments and some heart felt moments. Unless it really does fit your character and the situation, try not to swear (or at least too much). There are likely to be young people, some older folk and you don’t want to upset with coming across too rude, if you do, encourage them to cover their ears as you are about to say something rude, making them feel like you are thinking of them will show the room how thoughtful you are too.
4. The 3 p’s – Plan, Prepare and Practise
THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT. One of the factors of why we get nervous is when something is unfamiliar. If you are not used to speaking in front of large crowds, then feeling nervous about the situation is to be expected.
There are a couple of ways you can deliver your speech.
If you are a more natural speaker you may wish to not prepare anything at all and just stand up and talk, I have seen this work and I have equally seen this fail. In this situation I think it’s always best to have some cue words or points written down to bring you back on track if you start to waiver off topic.
If you are planning to write a full speech, prepare it long in advance of the big day.
Write it, read it, refine it until you are happy and then start to practice it.
Read over and over, at a time of day when it is convenient. A good time is at night before bedtime, go over it 5 times before bed for a week and I bet after 7 days you have remembered every word.
Once you can remember your speech, or most of it, you will relax more when standing up in front of everyone. It will flow better, you will be able to take pauses and feel more comfortable.
Familiarity with the set-up
If you haven’t got a chance to see the room before the big day, nip out from the drinks reception for a few minutes and take a look around. Stand in position and imagine yourself speaking to the room, have a look at where people are sat and if there are particular people who make you feel comfortable, making eye contact with them during the speech will relax you.
5. Cue cards
Though you may have remembered the speech, always have some cue cards with you on standby. If for some reason you stop mid flow (it could be a baby starts to cry, some drunk uncle heckles something or anything else slightly un-expected) – having some cue cards with words or key points on the speech will bring you back on topic at a glance.
6. Keep the whole speech in your pocket
Just in case the nerves still get to you and you can’t remember a point, have the speech printed out and keep in your pocket. I’ve been to a few weddings where this has happened and you know what, everyone just laughed a little, the whole thing became a great relaxing moment and after a pause, the best man started again ending in thunderous applause. In extreme cases i’ve even seen the speaker (often Father of the Bride) so emotional they can’t get through even the first line. Having the speech on paper will mean someone else can jump forward for you and read it through instead – trust me, when this happens it still has the same impact as if you read it yourself, the words and sentiment are what is important and there will not be a dry eye in the house.
7. Timing of the speeches
The bride and groom are who decide how the day goes. There are many ways a day can flow and one brilliant way I have seen happening more recently is to move the time of the speeches.
A wedding day can be long, traditionally the ceremony is around 40 minutes, 2 hours Drinks Reception, then 2 hours Wedding Breakfast meal – overall that’s nearly 5 hours from the start of the day to the point when the speeches are done.
One thing that long time and build up won’t help is your nerves. The longer the time period from start to the actual speech the nerves will just build up, people will be asking you if you are nervous, which in turn will make you more nervous, or if you were not even thinking about it, it may mean you start to.
So, here’s the clever idea – have the speeches at the start to the Wedding Breakfast. This means the speeches are over before anyone has eaten and also means the day is over and done with and you can then relax for the rest of the day.
8. Entertainment – plan the day correctly
If the whole day is filled with nothing but guests, no distractions no entertainment then this will just make you more nervous. Nothing else to take your mind away from it will just not help. It’s very common now for drinks reception to have some music, perhaps a harpist to relax the mood, a background singer or of course a magician.
During this Wedding Breakfast (below) they had ‘The Singing Waiters’, an amazing team who really knew how to get the crowd going and the subsequent speeches were the best i’d seen.
During Drinks Reception and/or Wedding Breakfast, having entertainment is essential for many reasons but here is how having a magician and specifically me helps. I will mingle with groups of people and ensure they have a lot of fun. I specialise in making sure people are enjoying themselves fully, they are laughing, screaming and applauding – but why is this important to help with speeches?
When people are relaxed and used to reacting and applauding, they will do so during your speech more freely.
Part of my service as a magician during the Wedding Breakfast is to RAISE ENERGY LEVELS, so by the time the speeches arrive absolutely everyone is on a high and ready to react by applauding, cheering and even screaming with joy. Imagine if during the day nothing has been happening, energy levels are low, everyone is bored, you look up and out to the room to start your speech and it is evident on everyones face that they just want you to get on with it – careful planning of the day can completely avoid this.
This has never happened at a wedding I have attended, because I have been the entertainment, but I have in speaking with guests over the years heard some stories to make your toes curl.
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9. Slow down and breathe
It is a classic reaction when nervous to speak very quickly. Have a glass of water with you and make sure your mouth is not dry. Take natural pauses during your speech as this will create cues for the audience to laugh and applaud and also help you relax even more.
10. The absolute #1 rule left to last
Your speech will be over in a flash, things move fast and once over you will wonder what you worried about.
Being part of any wedding really is an honour but you have been given the duty for a reason. You hold a special place in the newly married couples lives and hearts, they have full trust and faith in you to deliver and you will. You will rise to the challenge and nail your speech, everything will fall in to place, you’ll see.
So, relax and enjoy this moment it really will be one of the best in your own life too.
I hope some of the above has helped you and thank you for reading.
Please share to anyone you feel may take something from it and stay tuned for more blogs of this kind.
Good luck and remember, YOU WILL NAIL IT!
Photography courtesy of Rachel and Esmé at https://www.luminweddingphotographers.com/